Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a huge honor! It means the bride wants you by her side on one of the most important days of her life. But with that honor comes a few responsibilities—helping the bride with wedding planning, and, maybe, gifting the bride a present for some pre-wedding events as well. Below, we’ll cover the events where gifts would be a nice gesture, so you can set a gift budget that works for you.

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Wedding Gift-Giving Etiquette for Bridesmaids

As a bridesmaid, you’re already giving your time, energy, and likely some money to support the bride throughout the wedding process. But does this mean you’re off the hook for a wedding gift? Not exactly.

In North American culture, it’s customary for bridesmaids to give a wedding gift, but the financial strain of all the other wedding-related expenses should be considered. Because bridesmaids often spend on things like dresses, travel, and events, it’s perfectly acceptable for the wedding gift to be something thoughtful but not overly extravagant.

Related: Learn more about practical and meaningful gift ideas for the bride and groom here.

The Engagement Party

The engagement party is usually the first official celebration after the big proposal, and it’s a time to celebrate the couple’s decision to tie the knot. While not all bridesmaids will be required to attend, if you do attend, it’s polite to bring a small gift. Gifts at the engagement party are typically less expensive than wedding gifts and can include a bride’s cosmetic bag. This way, the bride will start planning for the wedding with something personalized.

Related: learn more about the do’s and don’ts you need to know about engagement party etiquette here.

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The Bachelorette Party

The bachelorette party is meant to be a fun, carefree celebration of the bride’s last days as a single woman. Bridesmaids are typically responsible for planning, organizing, and contributing financially to the party.

So, what about gifts? While gifts aren’t always required, they’ve become more common in recent years. Think fun, cheeky items that are more in the spirit of the event—personalized robes, party accessories, or even a silly gag gift that adds to the party vibe. These aren’t meant to be formal, high-end gifts, but rather something fun that adds to the celebration.

The Bridal Shower

The bridal shower is traditionally where guests shower the bride with gifts, and yes, bridesmaids are typically expected to bring a gift as well. However, the nature of the gift can vary depending on the type of shower. Is it a kitchen-themed shower? A spa day shower? Some showers might have specific themes that guide your gift choices.

Bridal shower gifts are usually separate from the wedding gifts, but they don’t have to be expensive. Many bridesmaids go for something from the bride’s registry that’s practical. If you’re feeling the financial squeeze, teaming up with other bridesmaids to get a bigger gift or doing something personal, like a memory book or handmade item, can be just as touching.

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